Below are my thoughts after attending my first FIGT conference in 2014 and after my 4th conference in 2017.
The crowd fell silent after the speaker posed this question.
Is living a global life worth it in the end?
This is something I’ve asked myself many times over the years…when I’ve missed family holidays or weddings or my own high school graduation because I was abroad. When important relationships fizzled when I returned “home.” When I’ve felt restless and frustrated that I’m not currently living abroad…and then feel guilty that I’m not appreciating the years I did live abroad and the wonderful life I currently have. When I wonder if I’ll ever feel like I belong anywhere (except the middle of the ocean in-between the US and Europe – ha!).
Last week I attended the Families in Global Transition conference just outside Washington DC. It was my first time, and I loved it! If you’re a global family, or work with global families, I highly recommend attending this conference.
If I had to sum up FIGT in one word it would be heart. Sure, we talked about research, strategies, and resources. But FIGT felt different from other conferences I’ve been to (and I’ve been to a lot of conferences).
You know that feeling when you attend a conference for the first time and you want to jump up and down because you’ve found people who get you? I wasn’t expecting that at FIGT because I’m not currently living abroad, I didn’t grow up abroad, and I’m surrounded by global people every single day. I assumed I’d have things in common with FIGT attendees, but I also assumed I’d feel a bit on the outside of their shared experiences.
I was wrong.
In fact, I felt like the FIGT crowd understood aspects of my global experiences that very few people get. I felt seen in a way I rarely feel seen.
What I felt at FIGT was an unspoken bond created from an understanding of both the excitement and the pain of living abroad. From choosing a different path than family and friends. From not regretting your choices at all but from recognizing what you’ve gained, as well as what you’ve lost, from choosing that path.
I like that FIGT acknowledges both the good and the bad of living abroad. In the international education world I’ve inhabited all these years, it often feels like we only acknowledge the positive aspects. Maybe we don’t want to sound ungrateful. Maybe we assume we’re the only one struggling with the pain and grief that comes with taking a global path. Maybe we don’t want to scare others from going abroad. In my experience, there just aren’t avenues for productively talking about the pain part.
FIGT also helped me understand on a much deeper level just how profoundly life-altering it is to live abroad as a teenager. Intellectually I knew that, I mean…I lived it, but for some reason I’ve always downplayed the significance and the impact on the formation of my identify of spending an exchange year in Germany at 16 years old.
Even all these years later it’s still so hard to sum up how that year impacted me…living with a German family completely different from mine in the US, attending school in a new language, experiencing ways of living and viewing the world that were sometimes completely unexpected…all of that changed me. Actually, it didn’t change me…I was young enough that it created me. But it’s taken me years to articulate what that means (I’m still working on it).
Is living a global life worth it?
For me, yes, because despite the pain, I simply can’t imagine my life any other way.
I want to give a huge shout-out to FIGT’s David C. Pollack Scholarship program. I was one of four Scholars chosen for 2014 and I’m so grateful that they funded the vast majority of my conference attendance! Being a Scholar was a fantastic experience. If you’re interested in attending FIGT, consider applying next year!
Another year, another FIGT conference! This year was my 4th time at FIGT (in The Hague, Netherlands this time), and the first year I didn’t cry. FIGT is the only conference that has ever made me cry! 🙂 I’m still processing this year’s conference….but here are a few initial notes:
// I almost always present at the conferences I attend but this was the first year I led a session at FIGT. Well, a Kitchen Table Conversation. I’m thinking about submitting a proposal to lead a discussion or a session at next year’s conference on a topic none of us globetrotters want to talk about but desperately need to work though: re-entry/repatriation. I’m thinking about basing the session on some activities from my re-entry relaunch workbook to show how reflecting on your global identity and life contributes to creating a more positive re-entry experience. We’ll see.
// Before this year’s conference I visited Hamburg, Germany, the city I lived in as a teenager 27 years ago. I hadn’t been there in 21 years! Truthfully, I hadn’t wanted to go back…now I realize because I’d never dealt with the pain of that amazing year. Long story short, I worked through the pain I’d been avoiding all these years and I had an absolutely wonderful visit to one of my favorite European cities. It was so much fun to revisit my old haunts and experience the city as an adult. I even got to walk around my old school a bit. If I hadn’t gone to FIGT back in 2014 (see above), I’m not sure I would have re-visited Hamburg. Thanks, FIGT. 🙂
// Because I’ve worked though the painful parts of that crazy amazing first year abroad as a teen, I’ve started writing a young adult book. (I cringe a little saying that because it sounds so cliche!) It’s fiction but heavily based on my year as an exchange student in Germany right after the fall of the Berlin Wall. I’m a huge advocate of year-long high school exchange programs and my goal with this book is to encourage more students to spend a year abroad in high school.
// FIGT has been so helpful to me in the past 4 years, and as a way to return the favor, I recently became the webinar coordinator for FIGT, so if you have a webinar idea, shoot me an email (webinars @ figt . org) ! 🙂
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